Does my child need counseling or comparison with others?

Child counseling should be the most important norm of every household. Many societies and homes portray the best people and compare themselves and their children to them. It is built in some of us and forced to be created by many elders for their young ones.

We often think comparing our children with the best brings out the good in them, but mostly it gives rise to negative feelings of inferiority, jealousy, complexities in their minds. Such feelings are becoming the root of all negative aspects in societies these days. We are all in a race, competition and in constant comparison of ourselves with the best. 

[blockquote style=”blockquote_style2″ align=”aligncenter” textcolor=”#7a637a” background=”#ffffff” bordercolor = “#c8a2c8”]“To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody else means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting – E.E. Cummings[/blockquote]

Child counseling or comparison?

Comparison and differentiation between habits and characters is most common for children these days. Many parents compare their child with the best of the people in their class, family or friends and ultimately give rise to negative feelings in the young growing minds. With time and repetition these things grow and lead to envy, jealousy and complexities in a person. These are the biggest culprits and are leading to most offenses and misdeeds in today’s world. 

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We all have an inner side within ourselves. On self examination and analysis we can relate that portraying the best influencers and celebrities and get in a race with the most bright person in class or at work.

Every person is different in their own ways, with self goals, aims and ambitions and a person moving towards their distinctive goals in their own way stays free from external pressure and complexities from others. 

child counseling by her mother

Child counseling for your little ones should move to make them conquer their ambitions rather than to compare with the topper in their class or the best employee at their workplace.

Instead of setting someone else as a standard for a child, like look at their son who excelled in the exams. Emphasis should be to put the child’s criterion on their individual growth and progress. In addition, they should be motivated by saying how well they have moved forward and beaten their flaws. Moreover, how well they can excel if they move forward with a specific way beating their imperfections. 

A minor shift to such norms have worked so well where people work on their desired careers. The ‘not so common ones’ of culinary, hotel management, makeup artists etc. In contrast to the standard best profession in the past of doctors or engineers. Changes like this have introduced evolution in all fields and sectors of life. People now excel in art, decorations, food and sports. 

[blockquote style=”blockquote_style2″ align=”aligncenter” textcolor=”#7a637a” background=”#ffffff” bordercolor = “#c8a2c8”]“Comparison with myself brings improvement, comparison with others brings discontent. – Betty Jamie Chung[/blockquote]


To sum up, the deep intervention of comparison in our society has highly affected young minds. They are then further influenced by social media and society trends. further, becoming highly subject to shortcomings and complexities. The world is rapidly going towards competition, materialism and perfection. However, there is a vital need to make us know our child’s worth and keep them safe from the race to perfection and competition. 

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